Our sins have followed us
We are an ignorant bunch, we really are because male rape happens too and we don’t do anything about it. We think that that isn’t possible since its men who are being taken advantage of, and that cannot happen right? Why is our mindset so narrow that we believe that the ‘stronger’ sex cannot be overpowered and left totally vulnerable and helpless? Because let me tell you, male rape happens more often than we know, we are just indifferent towards it because men don’t ever come out and speak about it.
Some time ago, that changed. A male rape survivor in Mumbai came out with his shocking story of being raped over and over again by his own uncle. Initially this year, Humans of Bombay, a Facebook page that shares stories of people all over Mumbai, shared the story of a man who was raped for 11 years by his own family.
“My uncle was giving me a bath when I was 7 years old, and that’s when it first happened. He forced me to give him a blow job and proceeded to have anal sex with me, multiple times. At that point, I didn’t know what was happening to me, whether it was ok, whether it was normal. I got so used to it, I would enter his house and lie down on the bed, just wanting it to get over as soon as possible. At 12, I began to get gang-raped by his friends, and I would bleed but keep quite…because what if I wasn’t considered ‘man enough’ to not bear pain? My childhood went by having two worlds where I would not remember the rape until something triggered it off and then I would cry endlessly. I would not enter a male washroom because I was scared that I would be raped again…I grew up having no self esteem.
It was when I was 17 or 18 that I began to understand that what had been happening to me for so many years was wrong–so one day when he came to jump on me, I kicked him and said no. For the first time in 11 years, I said no to being raped.”
My aim is not to bring this story to light again but to emphasis the fact that male rape survivors have no voice, they are the victim of their own ‘masculinity’. They have no legal action they can take against the accused; section 375 of the penal code does not include male survivors under its gambit and their only hope is to find justice through section 377, the anti-sodomy law.
Through this article I want to reach out to all the male rape survivors and encourage them to speak out about their life living on the other side of the coin.